Why do I Fight?

Well, this post is inspired by a few blogs and some life experience. In my medicine school, all of us, the MED 1022 kiddos were asked to choose a selective programs (program other than books, labs and Mr. Muscle) as a hurdle to go to the second year. Well, I choose martial art (cheap, convenience and on-campus training).

On the first day, all the trainers came and all of us gathers around. One simple question was asked,

"Why do you wanna join the martial art?"

Ahahahahaha. Here come the tricky part. This is a common question that any martial art teachers will ask their students. Sound simple, but it has a lot of meaning to both teachers and students. On that day, i was late due to some unavoidable matter but as soon as I get in the room, only a few people left to answer the question. A different and interesting answer was given by tonnes of people, and I somehow manage to deliberately avoid from answering that question in front of all other students. HAHAHAHAHA. I am good at avoidance and prevention =))

So now, I think it is time to see why do i wanna learn how to fight. Well here is my answer,

" I wanna learn how to fight so that i will never have to fight."

If i gave this answer on that day, surely it's gonna invite many questions from the instructors and stuffs. Nah. I hate to answer it in front of everyone. But now, let me explain my answer appropriately, since not many people know the existance of this site, and those who knows are within my reach, I think they have the right to know why i wanna to learn how to fight.

It is simple.In my humble opinion, to know how a fighter think will help me to avoid unnecessary fights. If backing off and saying "I'm sorry" can avoid fighting, then just do it. The people who ask for forgiveness will never become small in this world, and he who forgives has the biggest heart of all. Fighting is never a good thing. Someone will always get hurt. No matter who wins or loose, you will either get hurted physically or emotionally. I still remember what my first martial art teacher Pak Din said,

"If you can avoid fighting in any circumstances, do it. If you need to backoff, backoff and do it properly. But if you was left with nowhere to go, you can't go back, left,right,up or down to avoid fighting, then move FORWARD. FIGHT with all you have so that you will never regret it later."

I still believe in what he said to me up till this point. Sadly, it takes a long way for me to understand what he said. And I have to go through a lot of thing just to realise how important it is to stay away from unnecessary fights. When i was younger, I still remember how easily I can loose my temper and wanna kick someone's ass. I failed to understand whatever Pak Din said back there. And I have to pay a high price to it. More than I can bear.

The next thing why i wanna fight is the common reason why everyone wanna learn how to fight. To protect myself and someone I care for. When you want to protect someone, winning or losing is not important. For example, provided you're walking with a few girls on one night, there is no other guys available (how unlucky you are) and you decided to escort these girls back to their hostel. And out of blues, one idiot come and try to bug the girls. You've try to talk it off, but nothing works. The man get violence, and now is the right time to make a move. You fight the man, and tell the girls to run. You know that there is a huge possibility that you'll lost (every experienced fighter can judge his enemy, though sometimes they make mistakes). But guess what? It doesn't matter if you loose. Because the extra 5 minutes you give to the girls to run away back to their hostel, is way much more important than winning or hurting the man. That extra 5 minutes is what counts. I really think this is the different between fighting for one's glory and fighting to protect someone you care for. It's the efforts that counts, not the result.

I really hope that on any circumstances, i don't have to fight anyone or anything. It's better to stay safe and be in a peaceful condition. In this post, I wanna thanks Pak Din and Master Tony Lee for all their efforts in educating me all this while. Despite my big tummy and lack of stamina, they never gave up on me and believe in me. And thank you for making me a better man. I hope that by being good in martial art will make me better in another part, my life as a man. And Master Tony, please take care of yourself. I think all of us miss your unforgivable trainings and exercise. Owh one more thing. I really miss my old teams. May we see each other again one day!