hurt no more

Hmmm.......... It has been a long time since i write something here. MED 1022 really kill me. Awesomely busy, and i think sometimes i remember part of bones better than my friends' names. This is the path i choose, so i must endure it.

Well, i have seen lotsa people getting hurt in this year, more than any other years in my life. They said that as you grow up, things are getting more complicated. And yes, it is awesomely true. A simple conflict that can be solved in 3 minutes when you're 6 years old, now will take months sometimes years to be solved as you grow up. It is kinda ok actually. Cause as one grows up, his emotions and cognitive skills started to develop, and it defines who we are for the rest of the life. Life is now not eccentrically about you anymore, but it involves people around and these interactions will eventually shape your personality and characters.

Erm...i guess getting hurt is part of life and certainly inevitable. You really don't want it to happen, try your best to avoid it and still, things happened. No one can say anything about it. But personally, i would rather get hurt rather than hurting other people (this go for both emotionally and physically). Of course, it is superbly painful and sometimes you wished to destroy or hurt back whoever did all these kinda things to you. It is a normal human reaction.

Getting hurt is one thing, but hurting others are waaayyyy on different levels. The worst part of it is when you hurt others and never feel guilty about it. If you didn't realise it and never thought that your actions hurt others, it is ok provided that once you realised it, you apologised as soon as possible. But sometimes there are people who do realised their actions hurt others and still don't bother to say sorry. They still in any possible way defending their actions without the slightest concern to re-evaluate it.

I think that when some conflicts happened, in some way both parties are guilty. There is rarely a case where one side is totally responsible for a conflict (though it is rare, it do occur once in a while). Somewhere somehow we must have done something wrong along the way that sparks the conflict. So i do think that it is perfectly fine to just say sorry first though we awesomely feel that we are right. Asking for forgiveness never make a man smaller in this world, and he who forgives own the biggest heart of all. Sometimes by saying sorry, it cools down the other side and things can be solved way quicker and easier.

Other than that, i do think that if one hurts other too much, he/she will eventually get hurt back in life somewhere, somehow. Most of the time, it is worse than what he has done to others. What goes around comes around. So please. Don't hurt others unless it is necessary. Just make sure that when you hurt others, it is for a valid reason and not because some stupid reasons. But again, if you can stay out of conflict, it would be better. See, not everything that we feel or think should be expressed boldly (though some people do that). There are things that are better kept inside, no matter how much we disagree with it. Or at least if you wanna voice it out, do it properly.

I'm not suggesting anyone to be a saint, not hurting others at all. We are human, not angels. What i just wanna say that try your best to not hurt others. There is one quote that i really love. It sounds :

"I have long fear that my past sins will come and visit me. And the cost is more than i can bear"

So believe me. If you hurt too much people in life, there will be some moment in life where you yourself is gonna be hurt by others, and the pain is much more than you can ever imagine. And trust me. You never wanna be in that situation.