People cry. All the time. Fear, anxiety, compassion, anger and others. These are the feelings that come with us as human. You can't separate a human and his feelings. Cause if you do, he ain't no human anymore. Uhuh. Sometimes, feelings define us. Our characters, presentations and many more. Showing compassion, mercy, thoughtful etc. We are judged sometimes solely by our feelings.
When someone cry, it does not mean that he/she is weak. Nor it mean that they are wimpy or not strong. Sometimes crying is the only option left to express what you can't say. It is the simplest way to signal the other person things like "I've had enough" or "I can't take this shit anymore". It can also be used to say "I hate you soooo much" or simply "I hope I can be with you"
See? Tears are indeed carry myriads meanings. It is unique for every individual, and each of them has their own way of producing tears. Some can cry out loud like a baby while some just sobbing silently.
Enough with tears. Now let's move on to 'the shoulder'. Of course when one cry, he/she always need a shoulder to cry on. Well you can choose to cry alone but most of the time, one always has someone to cry with. I am not sure what you call this people as. Your 'best friends' or just 'friends' or things like 'BFF'. Well it didn't matter.
To lend your shoulder so that one can cry on never mean you're freakin' strong or try to hot doggin' and take a macho stand and be the man. Nope. It is actually wayyy far from such things. When one lend his shoulder to cry on, it simply mean "I do care for you". Or it can simply mean "I have no idea what to do, but this is the best I can offer". See, frequently we are at lost in term of words when someone come and cry to us. In that split seconds NOTHING come into this friggin' mind. Zero. Nothin'. So we just lend our shoulder so that he/she can cry on. Like the oldies said "Action speaks louder than word"
Sometimes all we can do for someone is to be there. Just be there. Let'em cry their heart out. Listen to their stories. Sit with'em. Offer a hug or tissue papers. Say comfort words. Or at least, just stand in silence. A simple pat on the back is priceless compared to a sentence of solution. A smile, no matter how brief they are offer a glitter of hope. It's like sayin' "Things are gonna be fine" but you do it without the speaking part. Simple aye?
People always said "Only girls cry". That is bullshit. Men cry too. Just sometimes, we didn't cry in front of others. Not in front of the family nor friends. We cry too, believe me. When someone did not cry in front of you, it doesn't mean we don't care. We do. Sometimes more than you.
Sometimes people don't cry for reasons. I think the most common one is the fact that if we cry, who gonna offer you a shoulder to cry on? Imagine when you are crying and someone try to comfort you when he himself is crying. Uhuh. Ain't gonna work. Trust me. There are things that wound us sooo deeply that we feel like crying sooo much. But then when others start to cry, we have to assume the role of 'he-who-offers-a-shoulder-to-cry-on'. When someone cry cause of she's scared of something (exam, dogs, blood or whatever), most of the time we are scared too. Just like you. Shitly scared. But hye. Someone need to be calm. And if there are only two of us, I would rather be the one who assume the role of 'the shoulder'. You can be 'the tears'. Just know one thing. I am as scared as you. Word.
So don't be afraid to cry. Or to offer a shoulder for a tear. Because in the end, we all shared the same feelings. You are scared. So do I. No one is tougher than the other. If a shoulder can comfort you, so be it. And if tears make you feel better, then be my guest to shed it on my shoulder ;)
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